so lets go through this article bullet by bullet point. (article courtesy from: nice girls don't get the corner office 101 by Lois P Frankel, PH D)
- Women tend to speak softly (you are not heard). This is true you do need to keep your voice audible but I've never met a whisperer at work. So unless you mumble at meeting I'm not sure how this applies.
- Women groom in public. Emphasize femininity de-emphasize capability. First off Ive never seen even the most insipid women applying gloss or face powder at a meeting , most just do it in their cube or in the bathroom. And thats good because trust me everyone responds better to a better looking person. Its a fact of life.
- Speak last in meetings. I disagree, sometimes it pays to listen to what people have to say, i do suggest interjecting your opinion at intervals where it is applicable but there is no need to talk just for the sake of being heard.
- Women ask permission. Well if your going to take work that isn't in your bucket but could potentially be yours do ask, maybe someone else is already on top of it.
- Apologize. OK an apology goes a long way but just apologize once and then drop it. Don't keep apologizing that's just annoying.
- Smile inappropriately. Unless your dishing out come hither smiles, smile away by all means. No one likes grumpy!
- Play fair. You have to play fair, but be smart. Highlight your accomplishment first and then say, and of course so and so contributed too; it was team work all the way.
- Being invisible. I'm not sure how any one does this, maybe they borrowed harry potters invisibility cloak. That might be useful actually, do let me know how i can get one.
- Offer a limp handshake. This one i actually agree with. Most women don't shake hands with enthusiasm. But yea make sure your palms aren't sweaty, that's just nasty.
So that's my break down on the article. And personally, I think being feminine and using a little bit of common sense is all you need to succeed. Because being a woman we hold more cards than we think in our hands.
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